Dendam
I was sort of forced to watch "Bersama Dato' Dr. Fadzillah Kamsah" last night. Actually, my brother wanted to watch it so I had no choice since he's holding the remote. Ok, I was curious to see what's it all about too.
The topic of the day was "Dendam". You know, the feeling of being revengeful or spiteful. I have nothing against that dude but sometimes his answers are like an insult to my little intelligence. You see, there was a lady caller from Johor. Come to think of it, there were lots of calls from Johor. Don't you guys have better things to do, like cleaning your house after the banjir?
Anyway, this lady lamented about her hubby. She's been married for three years. Her complaint was, her hubby doesn't seem to care about finances. The financial burden is on her mostly. And he doesn't care about her feelings too. In other words, he's a jerk lah. Because the hubby is a jerk, she feels "dendam" or "kecil hati". So she asked our learned Dato', what should she do?
You know what our Dato' said?
"Saya nak ingatkan kepada semua orang perempuan lah. Yang pertama bersyukur lah sebab you ada suami. Ramai yang kat luar sana tak ada suami. Jadi, bersyukurlah sebab ada suami."
Seriously, are you nuts?
The hubby is like a jerk and you want her to be grateful just because she has a hubby?
Again, are you nuts?
Where did you get your Ph.D? From Universiti Bawah Pokok issit?
Then as usual our learned Dato' Dr. would prescribe some "doa". As if that would help save the marriage. Fine, you can doa, pray or whatever. But you need to "usaha" too. Help doesn't come from the sky without hard work.
And that reminds me of someone I know. Before she got married she did the "sembahyang istikharah". She was in a dilemma whether the hubby-to-be was really her Mr Right. So she prayed. She got her answer. She married the guy. To make a long story short, the-after-sembahyang-istikharah-Mr Right goes on to have some affairs with other women. She can't share her secrets with her hubby aka the-after-sembahyang-istikharah-Mr Right. When she's broke she can't even borrow money from him.
So, tell me. Just by praying and doa, can you be guaranteed of marital bliss?
I don't think so.
My logic is simple. If you can't use your bloody common sense, then no amount of doa can help you.
Take that from me.
The topic of the day was "Dendam". You know, the feeling of being revengeful or spiteful. I have nothing against that dude but sometimes his answers are like an insult to my little intelligence. You see, there was a lady caller from Johor. Come to think of it, there were lots of calls from Johor. Don't you guys have better things to do, like cleaning your house after the banjir?
Anyway, this lady lamented about her hubby. She's been married for three years. Her complaint was, her hubby doesn't seem to care about finances. The financial burden is on her mostly. And he doesn't care about her feelings too. In other words, he's a jerk lah. Because the hubby is a jerk, she feels "dendam" or "kecil hati". So she asked our learned Dato', what should she do?
You know what our Dato' said?
"Saya nak ingatkan kepada semua orang perempuan lah. Yang pertama bersyukur lah sebab you ada suami. Ramai yang kat luar sana tak ada suami. Jadi, bersyukurlah sebab ada suami."
Seriously, are you nuts?
The hubby is like a jerk and you want her to be grateful just because she has a hubby?
Again, are you nuts?
Where did you get your Ph.D? From Universiti Bawah Pokok issit?
Then as usual our learned Dato' Dr. would prescribe some "doa". As if that would help save the marriage. Fine, you can doa, pray or whatever. But you need to "usaha" too. Help doesn't come from the sky without hard work.
And that reminds me of someone I know. Before she got married she did the "sembahyang istikharah". She was in a dilemma whether the hubby-to-be was really her Mr Right. So she prayed. She got her answer. She married the guy. To make a long story short, the-after-sembahyang-istikharah-Mr Right goes on to have some affairs with other women. She can't share her secrets with her hubby aka the-after-sembahyang-istikharah-Mr Right. When she's broke she can't even borrow money from him.
So, tell me. Just by praying and doa, can you be guaranteed of marital bliss?
I don't think so.
My logic is simple. If you can't use your bloody common sense, then no amount of doa can help you.
Take that from me.
posted by aman at
9:12 PM
6 Comments:
wei ko orang islam ke? kalau islam ko mesti tau doa adalah senjata bagi orang islam dan sembahyang adalah wajib bagi semua orang islam. ko pertikaikan apa yang dato cakap apsal? dia ada phd dah tentulah dia tahu apa yang dia cakap. dia lebih arif dan berpengalaman. ko tu ada phd ke nak menyangkal apa yang dia cakap! siap cakap dia nuts! siapa yang nuts sebenarnya. umur baru setahun jagung nak pertikai seorang pakar motivasi. Pasal sembahyang pulak ko ni memang hati dah dipengaruhi setan, setan dah bisik dlm hati ko supaya ragu-ragu tentang kekuasaan allah. Lagi sekali ko nak pertikaikan pasal sembahyang istikharah!!! wei bertaubatlah ko nih dah terpesong jauh. Apa yang terjadi adalah ketentuan allah sebab dia maha mengetahui dan maha berkuasa. Dia sajalah yang tahu apa yang terbaik utk hambanya. itu semua adalah ujian kepada orang yang beriman.
BERTUBATLAH!!!
"BERTUBATLAH"? check your spelling dude. pi sekolah dulu.
islam itu benar...kite wajib solat. kite kan ade rukun islam. wajiblah kite ikut. jangan pertikaikan. ALLAH swt hanya bg dugaan x lbh drp kemampuan kite. solat istikarah salah satu drpd solat untuk meminta petunjuk. bukan senang kite nk dapatkan petunjuk..so mmg kena solat dgn tertib. ape yg terjadi kenalah "REDHA"...insyALLAh kehidupan akan sejahtera..
dude. i'm also wondering where DFK did all the "menurut kajian..." things. full of statistics.
...66.2% of all statistics are all made up.
anyway, i did agree with anonymous comment on pengalaman DFK on these cases. kalau tak, he must be banned with all the non-sense.
dude, if you're a muslim, u r totally hadhari dude. if u r human, pls respect others.
hrmss..
1st of all i wud like to ask u
hav u ever solat istikharah?
mcm ni lah..
to make things simple
d practice of this prayer
is to help u to choose sumthing
when u hav things in doubt
simply means when u hav
to make choices in ur life
since our life is alwiz uncertain
sum of d ulama' sed
it shud b done a few times
so dat ur confident in urself
picking d right path
in order to do dat
u shud solat istikharah
wif earnestness
not only once
but a few times so dat
u'll hav great faith
dat u'll pick d right choice
how sincere are we actually?
only Allah can determine dat
wut is d best for us?
we cant judge dat too..
i think wut DFK sed was true
shud b grateful of
having a husband
b optimistic
if she wasnt married
she doesnt even knw
wuts d feeling of
having a husband
d feeling of being a mum
byk lg lah benda yg positive
btul tak?
takdelah nuts pun encik aman..
as for d cerai2 thing tu
mcm ni lah
msti u pnah dgr
org ckp hidup ni mcm roda kn
so jgnla assume yg
bile kite berdoa,
our life is goin 2 b purrfect
takde org yg takde
dugaan dlm hidup.
tak ke rasa terpilih Allah
bg dugaan tu ye?
Allah nak uji iman kita,
kesabaran kita.
usually manusia ni,
bile susah je br nak cari Allah.
bile senang kite tend to b lupa,
alpa dgn semua nikmat yg Dia bg
dlm surah al-Baqarah ayat 286:
'Allah tidak membebani seseorg
melainkan sesuai dgn kesanggupannya.
Dia mendapat pahala dari kebajikan yg diusahakannya dan mendapat seksa dari kejahatan yg dikerjakannya.
(Mereka berdoa), "Ya Tuhan kami,jgnlah Engkau hukum kami jika kami lupa atau kami salah.
Ya Tuhan kami,jgnlah Engkau bebankan kepada kami beban yg berat sebagaimana Engaku bebankan kepada org2 sebelum kami.
Ya Tuhan kami, jgnlah Engkau pikulkan kami apa yg tak sanggup kami memikulnya. Beri maaflah kami,ampunilah kami dan rahmatilah kami.Engkaulah penolong kami,maka tolonglah kami terhadap kaum yg kafir.'
Sesungguhnya Allah itu Maha Mengetahui kn encik Aman?
Islam ini indah saudara
cuma jgn kita mengkaji
sampai terpesong akidah..
kalau rajin
bacalah al-Ma'thurat pagi n ptg
kite kne sentiasa berdoa
bukan sekali dua dh cukup
i think ur big enuf 2 u/stnd this
cuba fikir dgn mendalam
Qalamullah itu indah..
kalau baca tu
elok baca dgn tafsir sekali yek!
carilah guru agama
yg boleh membantu..
hehehe
no hard feelings eh
sekadar mengingatkan saudara
dan diri saya sendiri=>
hidup ini sentiasa saling berpesan2
juz jotting down 2 say, if u believe in wateva ur doin' (i mean in good things), INSYAALLAH, ALLAH help u in wateva u do... dont juz pray or doa when ur in trouble but do it everyday & sincerely... life would b bless everytime & everyday...
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